DON'T CHANGE YOURSELF for a boudoir session!

Boudoir photography should be about who YOU are in this stage of your life.

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"What should I wear?  I don't really have any lingerie..."

A huge misconception is that boudoir photography is all about putting on that expensive matching bra, panty and garter set and hiking up the stockings.  While it definitely can be fun to dress up if that's your thing, your boudoir session doesn't have to look like that.  I understand the misconception though, when you google "boudoir photography" most of the photos are about the lingerie, not the person wearing the lingerie.  In my sessions, YOU are the main focus.  Not what you're wearing or the props you bring.  If you feel the most sexy in an oversized t-shirt hanging off your shoulder with plain cotton underwear then THAT is the look that you will be the sexiest in.  I want you to be able to recognize yourself in your photos.  I don't want to fit you in my box of what I think boudoir photography is.  This is why I send out a questionnaire before your session so I can get an idea of who you are, then I'll work with you to help you find the right wardrobe for you.

The most important point that I try to stress to my clients is that your boudoir session should be about YOU.  It should reflect who you are as a person at this point in your life.  You don't have to go out and buy things specifically for your boudoir session unless that's a part of the experience that you really want to have.

"Should I shave everything for my session?"

I think that may be the question that gets me the most when I hear it. My answer to that is "DEAR GOD NO!"

It pains me to think of women feeling like they need to fit themselves into the box of how mainstream media represents women. You don't need to be a certain way, or look a certain way for a boudoir shoot, you just need to be you. Whatever that means to you. If sexy to you is fully shaved then go for it!  Get that full Brazilian and rock that shit! But if you don't typically shave, don't feel like you have to for your session.  The full bush is beautiful!

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"I need to lose ____ pounds first..."

This is the most common one I hear.  So many women think they have to fit into the cookie cutter shape of the way the media portrays women, but SO FEW women actually look like that!  That cliche saying "life's too short" fits perfectly right here.  They're called cliches for a reason, right?  Life IS too short to not live your life to the fullest due to some "excess" weight!  I realize this is the main issue that carries the most shame.  Shame about our appearance can be crippling.  It can stop us from putting on a swimsuit to join a pool party or go to the beach.  It can stop us from even going out in public.  Some of you probably cringe at the idea of taking your clothes off in front of a stranger (me) and having photos taken of you.  You fear being judged and being seen.  I totally get that.  It IS terrifying!  In my opinion, it's one of the most radically vulnerable things you can do.  It's in our most vulnerable moments where the biggest transformations take place.

Check out THIS BLOG about a client who booked her second boudoir shoot with me BECAUSE she gained weight.

Even if you don't do a boudoir session, make the decision TODAY to stop letting your weight or appearance stop you from doing the things you want to do.  Make a commitment to yourself, your family and your loved ones RIGHT NOW to show up no matter what.  Drop that exhausting guard you have up and let loose.  Dance when you feel the music moving you, laugh with wild abandon, jump in the pool!

 

"Wow... have I always been this beautiful?"

My biggest fear was that I wouldn't look good, no matter how much photoshop, lighting, etc. was done. I am blown away. I had a hard time choosing what photos to purchase because even the unedited ones looked SO GOOD. I can't believe someone like me can look so sexy.

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This was so much more empowering than I thought it would be. As an (overweight) mom I often feel like I'm not attractive or sexy. I want to remember what it felt like to be in that moment, looking at those pictures right after and thinking, "wow...have I always been this beautiful?!" I wish I would have done this years ago.

My favorite part was the directing. It made me feel very comfortable and like I was capable of doing the shoot, even though I had no boudoir experience.

Next time I want to do an outdoors shoot.


For the Wild Ones - Outdoor Boudoir!

For the Wild Ones - Outdoor Boudoir Shoots

Have you ever wondered what it would feel like to see yourself through an artist’s eyes? To embrace and love your body exactly how it is?  And to fall in love with what you see.  It would feel like Freedom.  Liberation. It would feel like coming home to yourself, finally.  Maybe for the first time in your life.  Society says we’re not beautiful unless we fit a specific mold.  That we’re not worthy anymore once we start getting wrinkles and gray hair.  We wear those conditions like armor. Do you long to drop your shield to the world and walk naked into nature, in every sense of the word?  If your heart is saying yes, then an outdoor boudoir photoshoot is the answer to your longing!     

Imagine yourself...

Dancing in a golden field with silk as light as air as the sunlight spills over your beaming face. Or walking through a quiet forest, feeling the peace of being at home in your body, reconnecting with nature.  A sense of tranquility and self love like you’ve never felt before washing over you like the sweetness of spring. You let go of years and years of self doubt and criticism in a matter of moments, and you feel like a goddess.  Imagine being reminded of that feeling of self love every single day when you look at the beautiful work of art of YOU on your wall that we created together.  Imagine being able to go back to that very moment years later and feel the same peace and comfort you felt that day, shedding your layers in nature. Photographs have the power of doing that, transporting you to a reverie of a different time.  Reminding you of what’s important in life.

Consider this shoot for your future self on that day that you forget your worth and grace.  And you will, because we all do from time to time.

Don't wait until you "lose that last XX pounds" or "find someone to give the photos to".  NOW is the best time.  You already know this.  All we have is now, we have no idea what the future brings, or when our time is up.  We sit idly by and say, "one day I'll learn to love myself" until the weeks, months and years pass by and we've missed out on so much because we were so concerned with how we look in that swimsuit to go to the beach or pool party.  Imagine how freeing it would be to be able to let go of those negative views about yourself, even if just for a day.  If there are areas of your body that you're not ready to be in love with, that's totally ok.  I can help minimize focus on these areas with posing, lighting and wardrobe.

THIS IS YOUR LIFE.  RIGHT NOW, THIS VERY SECOND.  Don't waste it on self hate.  So many times I've heard clients say, "oh I wish I would have done a boudoir session years ago, I was too self conscious.  This really could have helped me."

"But I don't have anyone to give the photos to..."

The most transformative boudoir sessions I've done have been the ones where my client does the shoot for themselves.  You don't need a significant other to do a boudoir photoshoot.  If you do happen to have a significant other, it's just a bonus that they get to enjoy the photos with you!  This experience is all about you and your relationship to yourself.

YOU are important.  YOU are beautiful. YOU are worthy.

YOU. ARE. READY.

Where will your journey happen?

Your shoot is only limited by our imaginations.  What place in nature resonates most with your heart?  Where do you come alive? I would love to explore some ideas with you!  Virginia is home to the lovely Blue Ridge Mountains and countless winding rivers, waterfalls, and epic viewpoints on the tops of mountains.   The options are literally endless!  If you have no idea where you would like for your outdoor boudoir photoshoot to happen, I'll help you out.  I have a ton of great locations to choose from.  We'll work together to find the perfect fit you you.  

The WORLD is your oyster!

These shoots aren’t limited to the great outdoors of Virginia.  If you envision being engulfed in a sea of green moss that covers every inch of the Earth surrounding you, let’s go to the Pacific Northwest!  If big open skies with rolling sand dunes is more your speed, let’s head to the sand dunes out west! Your shoot is only limited by our imaginations.  We can go anywhere in the world.  The following photos were taken in Florida, Kauai, Italy & Bali.  

Where will your rewilding take you?  Let’s chat and come up with something unforgettable!

What to Wear for your Rewilding Session

This is entirely up to you.  The last thing I want to do is to fit you in a box that goes against who you are.  If what I say here doesn’t resonate with you, then carve your own path and let’s create your shoot together.  What would your ideal outdoor boudoir shoot look like?  Do you envision yourself prancing barefoot through the forest in a white lace gown and a flower crown?  Or elegantly draped across a log with a blood red dress swirling around your feet? Check out my Pinterest board to see what calls to you, or better yet, make your own and send me the link!

When choosing your outfit, think about the fabric and how it will move.  If it’s too stiff it won’t move with your movements and body. Flowy fabric that hangs nicely photographs well.  Chiffon and silk are ideal. The weight of jersey fabric can work well too, depending on the garment. If you’re not sure how something will look, please don’t hesitate to message me!

Check out this Pinterest board for inspiration.

Light, Natural Colors

I love the way white, ivory, and natural colors look in nature for a softer, sweeter look.  Loose, flowy dresses with lots of fabric would be ideal for this look. Other options would be sheer lace robes, crochet cover-ups, and fabric.  Flower crowns go well with this look as well!

Bold & Dramatic

Bold colors that pop against the natural setting can give your photos a dramatic look.  Stick to colors that are commonly found in nature such as black & deep red. Brighter colors, such as bright pink, bright blue or neon green can look out of place in nature. Bold patterns can as well.  But hey, if you’re looking for something that has that kind of look then go for it! This is YOUR shoot and it should be truly, authentically you.

Nude

You can’t go wrong with fine art nudes in nature.  You won’t regret the freeing feeling the experience of being in the wild outdoors with nothing between you and nature.  I will never pressure you into taking more off than you’re ready for.  If you decide to do nude photos before you shoot, then change your mind in the moment that’s 100% okay.  Listen to your heart and honor what you’re feeling.

Clothed or bare, come with your heart naked.  

Are you ready for an experience that will change your perspective of yourself for the better?  Book your session now and let’s start planning!  There’s only a limited number of these shoots so they’ll go fast.  Once your date is booked we’ll start planning your outdoor boudoir adventure together with a consultation with me personally (via coffee date, phone call or Skype).  We’ll make an inspiration board on Pinterest that matches your personality and what you want out of your experience.

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Danielle's Curvy Boudoir Session & Testimonial

A lot of times when Max and I tell people what we do, the person we're talking to remarks that they're too curvy to do a boudoir session, using terms much harsher than "curvy" to describe themselves. "Oh, if I could lose xx more pounds I may consider that".  It really hurts my heart to hear statements like these.  Every. Single. Woman. Deserves to feel beautiful.  It hurts to think that there are women out there, loads of them, who don't feel beautiful because in their mind they weigh too much.  Because at some point in their lives, or at many points in their lives, they were reminded that society reserves the "beauty" title for only those thin enough to grace the cover of our magazines.  Well this is bullshit. All of our clients are all brave to trust us to photograph them in the most vulnerable way possible, but our curvy clients are extra brave because not only are they allowing themselves to be vulnerable, but they're also saying "EFF what society's definition of beautiful is!  I'm beautiful too, damn it!"

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"Before the session, my biggest fear was that I wouldn't LOVE any of the pictures because of my weight. I'm always self-conscious and there is always something I don't like about myself. I was SO wrong. There are no words to describe the way I feel about my pictures. Jen and Max know just what to do and just how to pose you to make you look flawless and make you feel incredibly sexy. When I saw those pictures for the first time, I was beyond impressed. I couldn't believe that was me!"

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"They are genuinely in love with what they do and they are amazing at it. I felt so comfortable and relaxed."

©2014 Breathless Boudoir | Jen & Max Trombly

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"A friend of mine was so excited to step outside the box and do one and was getting so excited about it that I decided to set up an appointment too. From the time I set up my appointment until the day I walked through the door of the studio, I was a ball of nerves. I was so worried about everything (because that's just who I am). "What am I going to wear? How am I going to pose? What was I thinking? I'm overweight and there is no way I'm going to feel sexy." Boy was I wrong. As soon as you walk in and meet them, they make you feel comfortable. They are excited to work with you and are sure that you are going to look fabulous. The girls who did my hair and makeup were amazing. I felt so beautiful.  During the shoot, Jen and Max would say things like "Stunning!" "Wow! That was incredible!" "Just wait until you see what I'mseeing." That is what truly stuck out to me. When they were raving about how beautiful and sexy I looked, I couldn't help but smile and feel even that much more wonderful."

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"If you are terrified of booking a shoot, know that you are not alone. I was too. But now, I don't know what I was so afraid of. This was one of the most amazing things I have ever done. In fact, I would absolutely LOVE to do another one. It's almost like a high. You feel wonderful, you look amazing, and you leave there looking at yourself differently then when you came. Don't second guess yourself. Book a session with Jen and Max! You won't regret it." -Danielle

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